The 3 Step Trauma Release Process

121s for releasing trauma from any pregnancy, birth or life experience and/or helping prepare for birth by removing unwanted fears

When birth or motherhood doesn’t go to plan…

How do you know if you have Birth Trauma?

If you have had your baby and now feel awful about what happened. Perhaps it was something that happened at the birth, during pregnancy or postnatally. This can look like many things for different people, but here are some of the common things we hear from mums and dads suffering with birth trauma:

  • Things felt out of control; I was scared for my life; I was scared for my baby’s life.

  • Things felt completely overwhelming.

  • I wasn’t listened to or believed.

  • I feel at a loss, sad and/or shocked.

  • I am experiencing flash backs and/or have intrusive thoughts.

  • I have difficulty relaxing; I struggle with sleep.

  • I feel low, numb or have anxiety and feel manic.

  • I over-worry about every little thing and am hyper-vigilant.

Or are you panicking about giving birth?

Does it fill you with fear?

If you are pregnant and feel worried, scared or overwhelmed about the rest of pregnancy, giving birth or life afterwards, then these sessions are also for you. Pregnancy is a great time to work through some of our patterns, limiting beliefs or fears. A really helpful extra in everyone’s birth & baby preparation would be including these sessions.

In all these cases, the Birth Awareness 3 Step Process can really help; just as it has helped hundreds and hundreds of others before you. 100% of people say it is beneficial and 30% say transformative.

About the Sessions

Sessions can be done in-person or via zoom. Usually it takes 3 sessions to go through the whole process. Session 1 & 2 are approx 1hr long. Session 3 is just 45mins. We will usually spread these out over a week or two at your convenience; as follows:

  • First session - you can choose to share your experience if you wish (some people decide not to talk about it and that is ok too). We then take you through a simple Guided Relaxation to start off. This is to help settle a frazzled or stressed nervous system; which is often needed when people have experienced trauma as the system is still running its stress response. After the session you will be given the recording of the relaxation to listen to in between sessions and whenever you need in the future.

  • Second session - we check in to see how things are doing and then take you through another Guided Relaxation. This is where the experience will be re-encoded in the mind, in such a way as enabling you to remember the event, retaining your wisdom and key learnings, but help the mind to re-file any big emotions and tricky reactions we might still have been experiencing that we would like more choice over. This is powerful and a very effective process for all kinds of trauma, as demonstrated extensively by its creators when used with post-war veterans suffering with complex PTSD. At all times you are in control of the process.

  • Third session - we focus on the future and how life might be like, without these difficult feelings or traumatic symptoms. What would it be like to move forward free of all this? You will also have a recording of this guided relaxation helping you move forward in life feeling less traumatised, and feeling lighter, more positive, with a greater sense of calm, ease and confidence.

It is important to note that this is not therapy and we are not therapists. We are simply taking you through a very clever meditation to help your mind process and re-file the experiences that you have had. This can give you more space and help you feel much better moving forward. Together we can clear these dominating patterns and feelings and focus on the kind of future we would rather have happen.

Sound good? Contact us today to arrange suitable session times and let’s get this sorted!

Email us to find out more and to organise your session dates/times. Can be at home or via Zoom.

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This could be you!

  • “I delayed doing it for a while kept thinking the trauma would go away by itself, but I now realise how it could not have done as I needed to process it properly which this process has enabled. I would say don’t worry about not feeling in control or being able to relaxed enough, Clair is brilliant at helping people to reach a deep relaxation and it was always clear what I was meant to be doing and I could go at my own pace.”

  • “What I had imagined my labour to be like was far from it. I kept telling myself it doesn’t matter, I have a healthy baby. For a year, I have battled with post traumatic stress disorder and was noticing disturbing thoughts and images when trying to relax. I am so glad that I opened up and so grateful to Clair for being able to help me let go. Clair listened to my story, gave me a safe space to honour these feelings and finally a year on from my baby’s birth, I am able to move forwards with positivity. I would recommend the 3 Step Rewind process to anyone who needs the space to process their thoughts and feelings after the birth of their baby”

  • “The birth of our baby was extremely traumatic for both my wife and I. After struggling we were both diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I especially suffered with vivid flashbacks that would be disturbing and make it difficult to relax. My wife sought help though Clair and she offered the 3 Step Rewind Process to me. I was very apprehensive at opening up however Clair’s ability to put me at ease, listen and help me understand those feelings completely changed my view of those memories and how to move on with positivity. I can now look back at the birth of our baby with great clarity and would encourage others to use this process and I am extremely thankful for Clair’s help.”

  • “I knew I had a lot of work to do to improve upon how I was expericing the demands of my children. As I very much trusted Clare, addressing the trauma I experienced with the birth of my first child seemed like a good place to start. Clare listened to my story without judgement. From the beginning to the end, she got it and, as silly as it sounds, I knew she would look after it for me. The meditative work following this helped me to better understand the source of triggers that were causing me to feel unable to cope with my children. Now, it is like my brain has been rewired and I feel so much happier, more able to cope and excited about the future. I am in a place where I can fall back in love with my little family.”

3 Step was applied to birth trauma by Mark Harris and Birth Awareness was created. Mark was a midwife for 40 years and author of Men, Love, Birth. A guest on our podcast twice. We love his work and trained with him. Mark has taken over 300 mums and dads through the 3 Step Process. We look forward to sharing it with you too.

This process has helped 100s of parents - we hope it can help you too.

Reach out today to book your sessions to be able to move forward with your life calmly and confidently!